Do you HIDE from CONFLICT? Does the thought of confrontation make you want to run away and never come back? Once you master these 5 MASSIVELY IMPORTANT life lessons about conflict & confrontation, you’ll never have to hide again — and you’ll be able to teach these lessons to your kids, too!
Confrontation doesn’t have to be a bad thing. In fact, I would argue, confronting issues when they arise is one of the biggest ways we can grow in our relationships!
Let’s think about it in parenting terms: when our kids do something wrong that hurts our feelings – or a friend’s feelings – we correct them. We address the hurts, explain why it didn’t feel good, how to heal the relationship (apologize), and they learn to do better next time.
Why should confronting OUR peers be any different? When we confront in love, with a true desire to understand, it makes a HUGE difference in our communication and in our relationships. Read More
Wait… what?? Did you really just say I could learn “Spiritual Lessons from My Little Pony,” Laura? Have you lost your mind?!
Nope, nope. Actually, I’m quite IN my right mind at the moment, and it feels GREAT!
I had a bit of spiritual awakening this past week. Almost as if God gave me a good Gibbs’ smack upside the head, and I finally realized what He had been trying to tell me for about a year now. 😳 I can be a little dense, apparently… 😜
More on that revelation at a later date. Suffice it to say, I’m finally listening, and God has had PLENTY to say!
For now, on to My Little Pony!
As a high school teacher, I LOVED Love & Logic. Even with my college students, Love & Logic often saved the day. Now, with a 4-year-old pushing every boundary imaginable, Love & Logic is once again coming to my rescue. If you’re struggling with discipline, check out my FAVORITE Love & Logic tips for preschoolers! Read More
Have you ever had a verse smack you upside the head? It doesn’t matter how many times I study the book of James, these verses about being quick to listen and slow to anger always hit me right between the eyes. Today, they are confronting some not-so-desirable aspects of my parenting. Read More
Are you tired of being told you “just have a bug and there’s nothing you can do but let it run its course”? I AM!! While modern medicine has very little recourse when it comes to the nasties that float around every year, there IS something we can do to help! And it all starts with building your own Home Health Arsenal — a stash of ready-to-use roller bottles, spray bottles, and dropper bottles filled with the essential oil mixes you will love and trust to support your family’s health and wellness.
For the past 3 years, I’ve kept these 5 blends ready to go at all times to support my family’s health, and I could KICK myself for not learning about how to effectively use essential oils sooner! Here are my favorite EO recipes for building your own Home Health Arsenal!
Plus, you can get a BONUS recipe that’s great for kids on the FREE printable recipe cards at the end of this post! Be sure to read all the way to the bottom to snag your freebie! 🙂 Read More
Have you ever felt like you just can’t leave home for any length of time without bedlam ensuing? Nothing irritates me more than people ignoring the rules just because I’m not there to enforce them for a while. Maybe that’s why Nehemiah 13 bothers me so much – it sounds like my life! Read More
A while back, I read an interesting post on Your Vibrant Family about 3 Simple Steps to Improve Your Family’s Health, and it got me thinking. Alicia Michelle (the awesome woman behind Your Vibrant Family) brought up some important tweaks to use to boost our families’ health, but for where I am in my health journey, I needed something a little deeper. Read More
I woke up that morning and couldn’t move.
Every joint in my body was stiff, tender to the touch, incredibly swollen, and so, SO painful. What was wrong with me??
I had ended chemo treatments over a month before. You’d think I would be on the upward swing health-wise, right? Read More
Dear Parents of Soon-to-be College Students,
You’re about to send your baby off to college. Part of you is cheering — They’re finally out of the house! Another part of you is sobbing uncontrollably — They’re never coming back!! Please be assured that both responses are perfectly natural.
As a former university Resident Director, I’ve seen my fair share of tearful goodbye’s on move-in day. And I’ve talked with a fair number of you on the phone, assuring you that Bessie Mae really is doing just fine. (I’ve talked to many of you, too, when Bessie Mae gets herself in a bit of a pickle, too, but that’s for another post!) I know you’re all going to be okay.
That said, since you do have such a limited time left with your child, on behalf of all the Resident Directors (RDs) out there, I’d like to ask you a quick favor: Read More
I just cringed.
A Facebook acquaintance had posted a picture of a whole pile of cash she had found in a junk drawer. Great find! But WHY would you put it on the INTERNET?? Don’t you realize you’re just ASKING to get robbed or mugged?
Maybe I’m too cautious or old-fashioned, but there are just some things that do NOT need to be broadcasted for all the world to see. Wads of cash, intimate details of your marriage or sex life, a picture of me when I first wake up in the morning…
Some things the world just doesn’t need to see. With a number of these things, it’s a sanity issue. For others, it’s about privacy. In the case of the huge stack of large denomination bills, it’s a safety concern.
When it comes to displaying my child on the internet, it’s all of the above and more. Read More
You’ve made it to the very last post in the Improving Relationships with The Personalities series! Congratulations! So far in this series, we have…
Today, we uncover the secret to improving our MARRIAGES with The Personalities!
The bottom line in most marriage improvement strategies is to UNDERSTAND each other. The Personalities are no different in this regard. It’s all about learning to UNDERSTAND our spouse and then COMMUNICATE using this new understanding as a foundation. Understanding and communication. Sounds pretty easy so far, right? 😜
So, here’s the game plan for improving our marriages with The Personalities! Read More
It had been a HORRIBLE day.
Mom pulled our old, maroon Oldsmobile up to the curb, and I flung my 11-year-old self down into the seat, backpack smashing into my lap.
“Bad day?” Mom asked.
Mom then launched into her best stand-up comedy routine in an effort to coax a smile from her distraught daughter. It was NOT working.
With the hardest glare imaginable, I ground out, “Why do you think EVERYTHING is SO FUNNY??”
The shocked look on her face said it all. Then, as quickly as it appeared, it was gone, replaced by a smirk. “Girlie girl, I think it’s time you learned about The Personalities.” Read More
A few weeks ago, I wrote a post that told you a bit about my cancer journey and how I learned to detox from chemo. I also promised in that post that there would be a follow-up soon to talk more about the third piece of the “thriving with cancer” puzzle: nutrition and NOURISHING the body to build it back up with GOOD things after we removed the bad. This is that post! Read More
Last week, we kicked off our series on The Personalities with a look at why The Personalities are the EASIEST tool for improving relationships. One of those reasons is that The Personalities are DESIGNED to be relationship-focused. The meat and potatoes of this tool is using The Personalities and emotional needs to improve relationships. Read More
Women have long pushed for equality in the workforce. We want equal rights, equal pay, equal promotions, and sometimes we get those things. Most of the time, however, we do not — and for one HUGE reason: most women need to change their language!
The language we use in our resumes, cover letters, LinkedIn profiles, thank you notes, and in interviews can make or break our chances of landing the job.The language we use IN our jobs once we land them is CRUCIAL to our ability to move up in our companies, get raises and promotions, and be generally respected by those we work with.
As much progress as we have made toward gender equality in the workplace, the game is still very much played by a man’s rules and in a man’s language. How we, as women, communicate makes a huge difference for how we are perceived as employees, supervisors, and peers. If we want to be respected as equals, we HAVE to change our language. Read More
Relationships are HARD. But The Personalities are the EASIEST tool for improving relationships and helping you navigate your way through them. Here’s how!
Relationships are HARD, right? People who think differently than us drive us crazy. People who think exactly LIKE us drive us crazy. Why do relationships have to be so complicated??
I have good news for you: they don’t!
There is one AWESOME tool you NEED to have in your relational toolbox. Are you ready? It’s called The Personalities! Read More
Do you have trouble deciding what to fix for dinner each night? Have you tried a few menu planning strategies and not been able to stick with any of them? Do you feel like a failure when it comes to how to succeed at meal planning?
You’re not alone! I’ve been attempting to meal plan in some way, shape, or fashion since getting married over 5 years ago. After 5 years of failing time after time, I was pretty convinced I just sucked at menu planning. I’d make a plan, but wouldn’t stick to it, and I’d have rotting spinach and tomatoes on my hands. Or I’d forget to make a plan at all and be scrambling to make a grocery list when we finally ran out of milk and eggs. Uuuuggggg…
Enter theme nights!
I cannot for the life of me remember which blogger first introduced me to the idea of thematic meal planning several months ago, but I wish I could shake her hand. This strategy is the ONLY thing that has worked for me so far! I’m finally SUCCEEDING at meal planning! Huzzah! Read More
Have you ever thought about what someone would say in your eulogy? Would they remember your killer meatloaf recipe? Your business savvy? Your awesome sense of humor? Would they talk about your faith? How your life inspired them? Read More
Time management is hard. WAHM time management is ridiculously hard! Thankfully, I have discovered one secret to keep me on track lately. Can you guess what it is?
I have struggled with the time management concept my entire life, and the struggle only got worse once I became a SAHM (Stay At Home Mom, for those new to this particular brand of alphabet soup). My baby, C, was 10 months old when we moved out of the 24/7 “Dorm Mama” life to start building my husband’s career and let me focus on taking care of our family. That first year, I’m pretty sure I watched every G- and PG-rated movie and series available on Hulu and spent most every day in my pajamas, letting C play on the floor around my feet and toddle around our small duplex.
Not exactly the best use of my time. But, it seemed like anytime I tried to do anything more productive, like get on my computer for any reason, C was automatically in my face wanting me to play with her or wanting me to let her play with all the fun buttons, too. Sigh… Read More
Today, we have our first guest post here at Scattered Woman. Hooray! Please welcome Jessica Meades and tune your heart to what God would like to speak to you through her.
We’re all familiar with the phrase, “faith like a child” or “child-like faith” and yet, when I started out to write this post, I couldn’t find that phrase anywhere in my bible. It kind of threw me for a bit, as I had to re-think what I wanted to write. Even though I can’t find anywhere in God’s instruction manual where I am to have a child-like faith, I can still share with you the lessons God has used my daughter to teach me about being His child. Read More