Do you HIDE from CONFLICT? Does the thought of confrontation make you want to run away and never come back? Once you master these 5 MASSIVELY IMPORTANT life lessons about conflict & confrontation, you’ll never have to hide again — and you’ll be able to teach these lessons to your kids, too!
Confrontation doesn’t have to be a bad thing. In fact, I would argue, confronting issues when they arise is one of the biggest ways we can grow in our relationships!
Let’s think about it in parenting terms: when our kids do something wrong that hurts our feelings – or a friend’s feelings – we correct them. We address the hurts, explain why it didn’t feel good, how to heal the relationship (apologize), and they learn to do better next time.
Why should confronting OUR peers be any different? When we confront in love, with a true desire to understand, it makes a HUGE difference in our communication and in our relationships. Read More
As a high school teacher, I LOVED Love & Logic. Even with my college students, Love & Logic often saved the day. Now, with a 4-year-old pushing every boundary imaginable, Love & Logic is once again coming to my rescue. If you’re struggling with discipline, check out my FAVORITE Love & Logic tips for preschoolers! Read More
Have you ever had a verse smack you upside the head? It doesn’t matter how many times I study the book of James, these verses about being quick to listen and slow to anger always hit me right between the eyes. Today, they are confronting some not-so-desirable aspects of my parenting. Read More
Dear Parents of Soon-to-be College Students,
You’re about to send your baby off to college. Part of you is cheering — They’re finally out of the house! Another part of you is sobbing uncontrollably — They’re never coming back!! Please be assured that both responses are perfectly natural.
As a former university Resident Director, I’ve seen my fair share of tearful goodbye’s on move-in day. And I’ve talked with a fair number of you on the phone, assuring you that Bessie Mae really is doing just fine. (I’ve talked to many of you, too, when Bessie Mae gets herself in a bit of a pickle, too, but that’s for another post!) I know you’re all going to be okay.
That said, since you do have such a limited time left with your child, on behalf of all the Resident Directors (RDs) out there, I’d like to ask you a quick favor: Read More
I just cringed.
A Facebook acquaintance had posted a picture of a whole pile of cash she had found in a junk drawer. Great find! But WHY would you put it on the INTERNET?? Don’t you realize you’re just ASKING to get robbed or mugged?
Maybe I’m too cautious or old-fashioned, but there are just some things that do NOT need to be broadcasted for all the world to see. Wads of cash, intimate details of your marriage or sex life, a picture of me when I first wake up in the morning…
Some things the world just doesn’t need to see. With a number of these things, it’s a sanity issue. For others, it’s about privacy. In the case of the huge stack of large denomination bills, it’s a safety concern.
When it comes to displaying my child on the internet, it’s all of the above and more. Read More
It had been a HORRIBLE day.
Mom pulled our old, maroon Oldsmobile up to the curb, and I flung my 11-year-old self down into the seat, backpack smashing into my lap.
“Bad day?” Mom asked.
Mom then launched into her best stand-up comedy routine in an effort to coax a smile from her distraught daughter. It was NOT working.
With the hardest glare imaginable, I ground out, “Why do you think EVERYTHING is SO FUNNY??”
The shocked look on her face said it all. Then, as quickly as it appeared, it was gone, replaced by a smirk. “Girlie girl, I think it’s time you learned about The Personalities.” Read More
Time management is hard. WAHM time management is ridiculously hard! Thankfully, I have discovered one secret to keep me on track lately. Can you guess what it is?
I have struggled with the time management concept my entire life, and the struggle only got worse once I became a SAHM (Stay At Home Mom, for those new to this particular brand of alphabet soup). My baby, C, was 10 months old when we moved out of the 24/7 “Dorm Mama” life to start building my husband’s career and let me focus on taking care of our family. That first year, I’m pretty sure I watched every G- and PG-rated movie and series available on Hulu and spent most every day in my pajamas, letting C play on the floor around my feet and toddle around our small duplex.
Not exactly the best use of my time. But, it seemed like anytime I tried to do anything more productive, like get on my computer for any reason, C was automatically in my face wanting me to play with her or wanting me to let her play with all the fun buttons, too. Sigh… Read More
Today, we have our first guest post here at Scattered Woman. Hooray! Please welcome Jessica Meades and tune your heart to what God would like to speak to you through her.
We’re all familiar with the phrase, “faith like a child” or “child-like faith” and yet, when I started out to write this post, I couldn’t find that phrase anywhere in my bible. It kind of threw me for a bit, as I had to re-think what I wanted to write. Even though I can’t find anywhere in God’s instruction manual where I am to have a child-like faith, I can still share with you the lessons God has used my daughter to teach me about being His child. Read More
“As water reflects the face, so one’s life reflects the heart.”
~Proverbs 27:19 (NIV)
The past several days have been eye-opening for me as a parent. C & I started potty training last Wednesday, and it was an intense, lonely few days of me just home with C, focusing solely on her, and not being able to take care of anything else. Honestly, it brought out the ugly in me, and I’m not terribly proud of how often I completely melted down once Erik came home. Changes, in general, tend to make me anxious, and big changes to my daily life – like switching from the relative ease of diapers to having to be uber vigilant about not letting a toddler pee or poop on the floors – are enough to send me into full-blown panic attacks. That said, C is doing really well with learning to use the potty and I’m aware (once again) how badly I tend to blow things out of proportion when I let fear get the best of me. Read More
My best friend and I were recently talking about how hard it is to make friends now that we’re both married and have children. We know how important it is to have friends around to support us, but we both now live so far away from our pre-marriage friends, and it’s hard to keep up just by phone, text, and Facebook now that babies are involved. Making new friends involves a lot of work, time, and energy that neither one of us tend to have in abundance right now.
Ask anyone who knows me and they’ll all tell you the same thing: Laura is not one to freely hand out praise. I’m not easily impressed, and I expect A LOT out of myself and everyone around me. And then God gave me a 2-year-old…
Granted, my daughter, C, is still very little – though she certainly thinks she’s much bigger than she is! – and it’s easier to have more realistic expectations of her than it is of adults in my life. There are a lot of things she simply isn’t old enough or physically mature enough to do yet. But, I still get really frustrated when she keeps pushing boundaries we have already set for her. (There’s a reason the Danish call this age “the boundary phase.” We just keep dealing with the same ones over and over again!) It takes a boat-load of restraint to acknowledge and correct negative behaviors without crushing her spirit or sending her into a complete meltdown.