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5 Massively Important Life Lessons about Conflict & Confrontation

Do you HIDE from CONFLICT? Does the thought of confrontation make you want to run away and never come back? Once you master these 5 MASSIVELY IMPORTANT life lessons about conflict & confrontation, you’ll never have to hide again — and you’ll be able to teach these lessons to your kids, too!

Confrontation doesn’t have to be a bad thing. In fact, I would argue, confronting issues when they arise is one of the biggest ways we can grow in our relationships!

Let’s think about it in parenting terms: when our kids do something wrong that hurts our feelings – or a friend’s feelings – we correct them. We address the hurts, explain why it didn’t feel good, how to heal the relationship (apologize), and they learn to do better next time.

Why should confronting OUR peers be any different? When we confront in love, with a true desire to understand, it makes a HUGE difference in our communication and in our relationships. Read More

As a former University Resident Director, Career Counselor, Certified Personality Trainer, and high school Spanish teacher, Laura has quite the “scattered” background — with one underlying theme: education! She writes to educate and inspire women on topics related to faith, family, and lifework. She is also a resume writer, specializing in resumes for moms, career changers, and new graduates.

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Your Mosaic Life

Do your life experiences seem scattered? Has your work history been less than linear? It’s time to discover your Mosaic Life!

I don’t know about you, but I LOVE mosaic tile work. Maybe it’s the Hispanic-culture-loving Spanish teacher in me, or maybe I’m channeling the Sanguine, colorful, pattern-mixing lovelies in my life. Whatever the reason, I LOVE mosaics.

Especially if there’s a story behind them. Read More

As a former University Resident Director, Career Counselor, Certified Personality Trainer, and high school Spanish teacher, Laura has quite the “scattered” background — with one underlying theme: education! She writes to educate and inspire women on topics related to faith, family, and lifework. She is also a resume writer, specializing in resumes for moms, career changers, and new graduates.

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3 Spiritual Lessons from My Little Pony

Wait… what?? Did you really just say I could learn “Spiritual Lessons from My Little Pony,” Laura? Have you lost your mind?!

Nope, nope. Actually, I’m quite IN my right mind at the moment, and it feels GREAT!

I had a bit of spiritual awakening this past week. Almost as if God gave me a good Gibbs’ smack upside the head, and I finally realized what He had been trying to tell me for about a year now. 😳 I can be a little dense, apparently… 😜

More on that revelation at a later date. Suffice it to say, I’m finally listening, and God has had PLENTY to say!

For now, on to My Little Pony!

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As a former University Resident Director, Career Counselor, Certified Personality Trainer, and high school Spanish teacher, Laura has quite the “scattered” background — with one underlying theme: education! She writes to educate and inspire women on topics related to faith, family, and lifework. She is also a resume writer, specializing in resumes for moms, career changers, and new graduates.

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How to Use The Personalities to Improve Your Marriage

You’ve made it to the very last post in the Improving Relationships with The Personalities series! Congratulations! So far in this series, we have…

Today, we uncover the secret to improving our MARRIAGES with The Personalities!

The bottom line in most marriage improvement strategies is to UNDERSTAND each other. The Personalities are no different in this regard. It’s all about learning to UNDERSTAND our spouse and then COMMUNICATE using this new understanding as a foundation. Understanding and communication. Sounds pretty easy so far, right? 😜

So, here’s the game plan for improving our marriages with The Personalities! Read More

As a former University Resident Director, Career Counselor, Certified Personality Trainer, and high school Spanish teacher, Laura has quite the “scattered” background — with one underlying theme: education! She writes to educate and inspire women on topics related to faith, family, and lifework. She is also a resume writer, specializing in resumes for moms, career changers, and new graduates.

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How I Want to Be Remembered

Have you ever thought about what someone would say in your eulogy? Would they remember your killer meatloaf recipe? Your business savvy? Your awesome sense of humor? Would they talk about your faith? How your life inspired them? Read More

As a former University Resident Director, Career Counselor, Certified Personality Trainer, and high school Spanish teacher, Laura has quite the “scattered” background — with one underlying theme: education! She writes to educate and inspire women on topics related to faith, family, and lifework. She is also a resume writer, specializing in resumes for moms, career changers, and new graduates.

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What To Do When You Lose Your Job

“You’re fired.” These two little words might be the most feared of every working man and woman in the world. Not understanding, depression, anger, and maybe even self-loathing run though our minds. What the heck am I supposed to do now?? As a career advisor, here are my top 5 tips for what to do when you lose your job: Read More

As a former University Resident Director, Career Counselor, Certified Personality Trainer, and high school Spanish teacher, Laura has quite the “scattered” background — with one underlying theme: education! She writes to educate and inspire women on topics related to faith, family, and lifework. She is also a resume writer, specializing in resumes for moms, career changers, and new graduates.

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Faith Like A Child

Today, we have our first guest post here at Scattered Woman. Hooray! Please welcome Jessica Meades and tune your heart to what God would like to speak to you through her.

Welcome, Jessica!

We’re all familiar with the phrase, “faith like a child” or “child-like faith” and yet, when I started out to write this post, I couldn’t find that phrase anywhere in my bible. It kind of threw me for a bit, as I had to re-think what I wanted to write. Even though I can’t find anywhere in God’s instruction manual where I am to have a child-like faith, I can still share with you the lessons God has used my daughter to teach me about being His child. Read More

As a former University Resident Director, Career Counselor, Certified Personality Trainer, and high school Spanish teacher, Laura has quite the “scattered” background — with one underlying theme: education! She writes to educate and inspire women on topics related to faith, family, and lifework. She is also a resume writer, specializing in resumes for moms, career changers, and new graduates.

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What’s in a Name? – Part 3

  

Perhaps this entry would more accurately be titled “What’s NOT in a Name”. Peter figured out the answer to that question pretty quickly! Check out the account of Simon receiving his new name from Jesus, Peter, and what happens immediately after that event: Read More

As a former University Resident Director, Career Counselor, Certified Personality Trainer, and high school Spanish teacher, Laura has quite the “scattered” background — with one underlying theme: education! She writes to educate and inspire women on topics related to faith, family, and lifework. She is also a resume writer, specializing in resumes for moms, career changers, and new graduates.

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Excuses, Excuses

[Jesus] said to him, “Do you want to get well?”
“Sir,” the sick man answered, “I don’t have anyone to put me into the pool when the water is stirred up, but while I’m coming, someone goes down ahead of me.”

~ John 5: 6-7 (HCSB)

Man, do I resonate with this guy. Excuses, excuses. Legitimate excuses, but excuses and self-pity nonetheless. All Jesus wanted to know was if he wanted to get well.

Duh! Of course, I want to get well! But I’m all alone here. I have no one to help me!

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As a former University Resident Director, Career Counselor, Certified Personality Trainer, and high school Spanish teacher, Laura has quite the “scattered” background — with one underlying theme: education! She writes to educate and inspire women on topics related to faith, family, and lifework. She is also a resume writer, specializing in resumes for moms, career changers, and new graduates.

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Nobody’s Perfect!

It’s been a long two years of being angry, bitter, and frustrated with God. Health issues, adjusting to motherhood while still working, then adjusting to motherhood while NOT working, three moves… It all piled up on me and left me feeling very alone and abandoned by the God I had previously leaned on for everything and trusted implicitly. Read More

As a former University Resident Director, Career Counselor, Certified Personality Trainer, and high school Spanish teacher, Laura has quite the “scattered” background — with one underlying theme: education! She writes to educate and inspire women on topics related to faith, family, and lifework. She is also a resume writer, specializing in resumes for moms, career changers, and new graduates.

A Lesson in Faith

** Please keep in mind, this blog was written over a year before my husband entered my world. I hadn’t dated in over 11 years, and as you’ll read, I wasn’t expecting that to change anytime soon, though I desperately wanted to be married. Once he did finally show up, we went from matched to married in 5 months, including a 5-week engagement, so needless to say, I was SO glad God had been prepping me for a quick run for a good, long while before it actually happened! In fact, after prepping for a 2-week engagement, 5 weeks sounded like a luxury! I hope you enjoy reading some of my story as a single woman struggling with “the gift” of singleness. 🙂 **

As I was getting ready for bed one night, I was struck with the overwhelming thought that I needed to plan a wedding. But this wedding wasn’t for one of my students – even though there are several each year! – this time it was MY wedding I needed to plan. Why, God? There is no man in sight for me to marry. Why should I spend all this time and energy planning a wedding?

I soon realized I didn’t have to actually plan the whole thing. I had wedding magazines lying around from helping students, and I’d been collecting pictures and ideas in a “Dreamin’” file for years. At the very least, I could pick through the things I’d already pulled and decide which styles I liked best in dresses and rings, what kind of flowers I liked, color schemes, etc. So, I dove in, stayed up entirely too late looking over all my clippings, and still didn’t really know why I needed to plan my wedding, other than the standard “just in case.”

A few days later, I was thinking and praying about why I felt so strongly that this was something I needed to do. God couldn’t have been clearer: because I needed to be prepared! God asked Noah to build the ark years before he actually needed it. In the parable of the ten virgins, they had no idea when the bridegroom would arrive, but they had to be ready for that moment or they’d miss the wedding entirely! Now, if THAT didn’t snap me to attention!

God frequently asked His children to prepare for a coming event years and years in advance. But when the time finally came to move, they HAD to be ready the very instant He said “Go!” They had to move FAST, or they’d miss it. In some cases, they even died because they didn’t move quickly enough! However, snap decisions aren’t so hard to make when we’ve already run the scenario ten times in our heads. J

If a man showed up tomorrow, decided I was the one, and asked me to marry him, could I say yes? What if he said, “Great! I’ll give you two weeks, but then we’re getting hitched whether you’re ready or not”? Yikes! It hit me at that point that I’ve always WANTED to get married like that. Not elope necessarily, but once we know, we KNOW, and we’re doing it NOW! I want my friends and family to be there, but I don’t want to spend months planning a big fancy wedding. I never have. So, there’s a practical part to what God’s telling me to do here. He’s saving me the headache of planning in a crunch! I’d be able to say yes and marry quickly without worrying about too much because I’d already have the big decisions made. I kind of like this plan!

The next thing God showed me about this rather random request is that just like the ten virgins who didn’t know when the bridegroom was going to show up, I don’t know when my husband is going to show up. Neither do I know when THE Bridegroom is going to return for me. Not only do I need to be ready to marry up quick, but I need to be ready to leave this world for a much better one “in the twinkling of an eye.” I’m not going to have time to plan and get my ducks in a row when Jesus comes back. I have to have it all ready to go – I have to have ME all ready to go – the instant I hear that trumpet sound.

 That’s really what faith is all about, isn’t it? Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see. (Heb. 11:1) Even though there is not a man in sight to marry at the moment, God is asking me to not only pray in faith for my husband to come, but to act on that faith and make preparations for when he comes. I have to trust that I did hear God correctly, that he does intend for me to marry one day. If I don’t really believe he’s coming, I don’t have to worry about planning. But, if I really and truly believe that God is bringing a husband for me, I have to plan for when he shows up. It all comes down to a lesson in faith, a lesson in trusting the God who made these promises.

God is asking all of us not only to talk about faith, but to live in faith, to live like He’s coming back for us, like we really believe it. The only way I’m going to plan a wedding or keep living from a heart wholly devoted to Christ is if I am sure of what I hope for and certain of what I do not yet see. So, happy planning, everyone!

As a former University Resident Director, Career Counselor, Certified Personality Trainer, and high school Spanish teacher, Laura has quite the “scattered” background — with one underlying theme: education! She writes to educate and inspire women on topics related to faith, family, and lifework. She is also a resume writer, specializing in resumes for moms, career changers, and new graduates.